Sexual Surprises: Keep 'em Guessing

Sexual Surprises: Keep 'em Guessing

Tue, 09/18/2012 - 16:44 -- kylerichtig

Few people enjoy monotonous routine sex. Changing the where and how you have sex can reignite a previously dimming fire. Sexual surprises can build a new level to your relationship. Knowing your partner will help you decide which sexual surprise is the best course of action for you!

New places

Surprise your partner with sexual activity in a previously unexplored area. There is no wrong place to do this! Simply be aware of who may catch you if in public. You may wish to start small by adding in sexual activity in the car on the way home. If this does not appeal to you, try initiating sex in the kitchen or the laundry room.

New positions

For the less publically adventurous, adding in new positions to your repertoire can create new chemistry. Easy new positions may include Side Rider, Slow Dance and Book Ends. If your partner enjoys new positions, include new positions every so often. Ask your partner if they have any ideas for new positions. If they do not on the spot, invite them to surprise you next time.

Role-play

Introduce your partner to a new lover by surprising them when they come home. Dress up as a new character that they may fantasize about. Use you imagination to transform yourself. Work on the sensory details such as textures and scents. Bringing yourself into a new character should give you a whole new experience as well. Assuming a character gives you license to do things you have been too shy to do before. Incorporate different music and lighting to add to the illusion.

Filthy letters

For some of us, physically saying what we want sexually is impossible. Write your partner a letter about what you want them to do to you, or what you are wiling to let them do. This activity in itself can be arousing, as you let your imagination decide what the limits are. In your letter, invite your partner to respond with his or her own letter fantasies, or to follow the guidance given. Assuming different characters for your letters allows fantasies to include others, and to do things they would not normally do.

Sexual surprises come in all varieties. Find the surprises that work for both you and your partner. Remember great sex you have had in the past and use it as inspiration for what can happen in the future. Mix up the theme of your sexual surprises to keep your partner guessing!

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Kyle Richtig

Kyle Richtig is a Canadian writer of foundry pushing poetry and fiction. He is certified in personality assessment and sees sex as an endless buffet of options. Check out more about his projects at kylerichtig.com