Is It Okay To Have A Fling With Your Boss

Is It Okay To Have A Fling With Your Boss?

Thu, 10/18/2012 - 00:25 -- zena

While having flings with co-workers seems more ethical and lot easier, there are some who aim higher and have dates with their bosses instead but is that even right? Is it okay to have a fling with your boss? That's a hard question to answer. If he/she is your boss then you should know of your limitations. How can you figure those limitations and be able to set boundaries between each other when you are romantically linked and working in a professional space at the same time?

The pressure to not look like you will rip each other's clothes off while in front of other people at work is hard, I know but some people can do it. How they manage it, I do not know. There always this unsettling feeling when it comes to flings at work especially when it involves the boss. If you are ready to face some backstabbing, a lot of criticism and a whole of jealousy then by all means, go ahead. Having a fling with your boss isn't exactly ideal and definitely something that will keep tongues wagging. If you don't want to always be the topic in the latest gossip or even the butt of all jokes then steer clear from your boss.

Let's say you like your boss and your boss likes you as well. If you are both single then I don't see anything wrong with getting together personally however, there is always a matter of keeping things professional. If you are the kind of person who can keep your personal business away from the workplace then such a fling or a relationship should be fine with you. So, the first few weeks and months are your happiest but always remember that if this so called fling doesn't go anywhere and your boss ends up being a user after all then expect the worse. Aside from the personal emotional pain that you will be dealing, there is always be the fact that he/she is your boss thus, they have the power to remove you from the company. Is having a fling or a relationship worth that much? If you love your job and want to grow or even get promoted then having a fling with your boss should never be on your priority list. There are so many reasons as to why you should and shouldn't have a fling with your boss however, in the end, it all boils down to you and your decisions, whether personally or professionally.

Is It Okay To Have A Fling With Your Boss?I had a friend who was new to this company. She was young and pretty. In short, she was very desirable. Her boss was handsome, rich and dashing. He was a complete gentleman. She fell for him and everyone in the office knew of their affair. Sadly, her so called boss lied to her. He told her that he wasn't married. She was so into him that she gave him everything. He lavished her with gifts and many things. She ignored the warning signs. In the end, she found out the truth. She was the mistress and she was guilty of being so however, she couldn't bring herself to not love him. He, on the other hand, love her and his wife but he knew that he needed to choose in the end. My friend lost. He chose his family which was the most logical thing to do. Out of humiliation, she quit her job. After a month, she found out she was pregnant. She was jobless and her child fatherless. She found herself in a hopeless situation. Simply because she gave in to her desire. To me, she is a reminder that having flings with bosses isn't such a good idea. Good thing I was never tempted to try.

I am not saying that having flings or relationships with your bosses could lead to something bad or worse. I am merely implying the dangers that one might face. At the end of the day, no matter what happens, he/she will still be your bosses and professionally, they still have the power over you whether you like it or not. If you do not want to put your career on the line then do not even think about it. Always bear in mind that a personal relationship and a working relationship are two very different things. Although sometimes we learn the hard way, I think it would be better if you don't. However, if you truly want to experience this kind of relationship then who am I to judge you or to stop you from it? Tread with caution. For remember that they are still your bosses and never your simple colleagues. The decision is up to you.

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Zena Alethea Teofilo

Zena is an online English teacher. She enjoys writing and drawing during her free time. She writes many different articles and stories every day. Some are erotic in nature while others are informative. Writing for this website has opened her to a new world of possibilities. She is happy to share her thoughts and opinions about many things in life. She just hopes that many people are satisfied with her work for she aims to please.