A few things are universally to be avoided in love

Things That Fuck up Your Relationship

Fri, 09/07/2012 - 15:25 -- jcartwright

A few things are universally to be avoided in love. A complete list would be longer than this, but this list will get you started and surmise all the big ones. Without further ado:

All work, no play

Work can ruin a relationship pretty darn fast. Pretty soon you’ve both got out of town meetings; you’re taking conference calls all the time and you barely see each other anymore. Tale as old as time, song as old as rhyme. The important thing to remember here is that you don’t need time: you make it. That may not be strictly true, honestly speaking, but in this case it has to be, or you just give up and call it quits. It will take a conscious effort on both sides to free up time to spend together. Too many healthy relationships are ruined by a gruelling day at the office that leaves you too exhausted to have fun when you get home. Don’t let this be you! Make the effort!

Priorities ass backwards

You can never which will be the straw to break the camel’s back… will it be the night you stay up to watch the game and don’t come to bed? Will you go out drinking with friends and come home to discover it’s time you had a talk? Who can say. You reach a certain point in a relationship where you begin to take things for granted and you stop working for them. And when you reach this point, you start to take small liberties. Only the smallest at first, but slowly they grow larger. Suddenly, you have a relationship crisis on your hands. So beware.

Bad Sex

Yeah. Big time. Lots of lazy people out there. Don’t be among them. Sex is a craft and it requires study. A boring sex life is a number one killer of relationships and it’s everybody’s fault if a sex life is boring because it’s not that hard to make it interesting. Not that you should hit the books or something drastic. Climbing into bed is not an exam. Rather, remember Einstein: Imagination is more important that knowledge. And read a few more articles on this site.

Blame Game

You said, no you said, No YOU said. This is all too common a conversation. Try not to have it. Couples get caught up in their petty arguments. Pretty soon someone’s packing their bags. Rather than play out this scenario, almost comically familiar, choose to take a deep breath instead. Calm yourself and don’t escalate the insults. However, don’t play “the calm one” as this will probably only infuriate more. Strive to be angry too, but also wanting to seek solutions and not merely interested in hurling insults in a fit of momentary rage.

James Cartwright

Just like to write about sex and relationships!

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