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The Realities Of Moving In With Your Partner

Sat, 09/08/2012 - 13:06 -- zena

Moving in with someone may sound appealing at first but to be honest, such a decision should not be an easy one. There are so many factors to consider before actually deciding to shack up with someone. Are you prepared for all of them? Well, if you haven't really done some thorough thinking about it yet then why not read this article first to actually know what you are getting yourself into. That way, this will save you from all the pain that you will experience later.

For men: So you want to just stay home on a beautiful sunny weekend.

You want to play some computer games or perhaps watch some sports games but then, your girlfriend wants to outside and enjoy the beautiful weather with you. You sulk and you end up sacrificing even your most precious alone time. I am sure you wouldn't want that.

For women: So you want a little organization in your home

So you decided to put labels everywhere and to diligently arrange everything so that they are easy to find and easy to clean after afterward but as soon as he moves in, he starts not following the labels and starts complaining about them. You, on the other hand, is no at a loss at the changes and is frustrated at what he did. Talk about walking over your personal space.

Whether it is you sacrificing your alone time or your personal space, I think most couples who live in different home should realize that living with each other is an entirely different experience. Basically, living together is like being married except you aren't legally married and that you can still get out of the whole mess whenever you want to without considering the paperwork. It is common for couples who live together to sacrifice some of both and in order to do that, they should both meet halfway.

For men: You realize that before

It was easy for your friends to come over and just watch sports games with you, play computer games or perhaps drink together while you all gamble. Now, they need to call first before they come over so that you and your partner can plan ahead.

For women: Most single women enjoy some girl bonding as well

Sleep overs as well as shopping trips and makeovers are essential for most women. But now that you are living with your partner, you find it difficult to explain to him why you need to spend money and time on such things.

You can't really expect your partner to like whatever you did in the past when you were single but that doesn't mean that he or she will not grow to like them. At first, they wouldn't like it only because they still were not accustomed to them but eventually, once they realize that there is nothing wrong with the things that you did with your friends in the past then go for it. Sometimes respecting what you both did as single people can help respect each other more now that you are living with each other.

For men: Living in with someone will probably relieve you from the burdens of cleaning and doing household chores.

For women: I did not want to live in with my partner because I wanted to be treated like a maid. I wanted to live with him because I wanted to get to know him better. Sadly, now that I know him better, I regret that I ever moved in with him.

Moving in together means you have to share most of the responsibilities together. It is not a one way thing. So, if you expect your partner to cut you some slack then wake up and smell the coffee before it is too late. For men: Moving in with my partner will make me have a higher success at having sex every night.

For women: I am not a robot. I get tired too. Sometimes having sex is fun but how can I have the energy to do it when I am already drained from work or my studies?

Sex is essential in every relationship as it helps bonds us more with our partners however, if one of us does not have the strength or the interest to do it then do not force them. Moving in with each other gives you the perk and probably that impression but that doesn't mean that you should abuse it. Be sensitive of your partner's situation and feelings as well.

For men: Living together means we earn more and will then be able to save more.

For women: If we both earn and we both keep on working hard, we will have enough money to buy other things as well.

That's where most couples are wrong. Sure, living in together means that you will have combined incomes but that doesn't mean that the expenses will be cut down miraculously. Believe me, some new expenses will arise and in the end, that will leave you with not the amount that you first aimed for.

Moving in with your partner is one of the biggest steps in furthering a relationship. Sure, it is not like you are asking your partner to get married with you but somehow living in together is cutting it close. There will be many inconveniences in this kind of set up as well as many sacrifices. Many changes need to be welcome and you must be willing to undertake all of them, if not then at least try. Sometimes being together for so long can help you have a better chance at living with each other more but sometimes it doesn't either. They say that you will only truly get to know a person once you finally, live with him or her. If you are used to spending a lot of time with your partner and don't mind it then I am sure you can survive the whole living with each other phase. Adjustments happen, no matter how big or small they are. Relationships change and so should you. If you really are serious with moving in then please consider the following factors. If you think you can do it then go for it. Remember that there is no room for being selfish once you and your partner move in together. Like a married person, you should do your best to make your partner happy and at the same time, do your best to co-habit with him or her the best you can.

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Zena Alethea Teofilo

Zena is an online English teacher. She enjoys writing and drawing during her free time. She writes many different articles and stories every day. Some are erotic in nature while others are informative. Writing for this website has opened her to a new world of possibilities. She is happy to share her thoughts and opinions about many things in life. She just hopes that many people are satisfied with her work for she aims to please.