Things Not To Say To Your Friend After a Break Up

Things Not To Say To Your Friend After a Break Up

Thu, 02/21/2013 - 10:44 -- zena

When a friend comes to you crying and nursing a broken heart, I am sure you want to be there for your friend but then again, did you know that there are some things that you should never say to a friend after a break-up? Not know what they are, here's a list of them.

Don't worry, there is plenty of fish in the ocean.

Sure, this is true but if your friend's heart has just been recently broken, your friend doesn't need this fact as it might just be a slap or a punch in the face.

We didn't like him/her anyway.

Seriously? Why resort to something this childish? Remember that if your friend and his/her partner will end up getting back together, this might be used against you. So, it would be best to avoid this comment not unless you are ready to be in a lot of awkward moments in the future.

He/She doesn't deserve you.

When someone dumps you, you already feel bad enough. You don't need another person to tell you what kind of a bad person your ex was since it is pretty obvious already. Call it rubbing it in. Somehow it just puts salt on fresh wounds. I am sure nobody wants that for anyone.

You will get over it.

Of course, your friend will move on. That is a fact but do you really have to say it?

I told you so.

Telling your friend this statement just makes it feel like you are blaming your friend for being the predicament that he/she in. I am sure your friend didn't want to be in that situation. Nobody wanted that but by you telling your friend this statement, it is just like you don't care about his/her feelings which makes you an insensitive and callous friend.

I already knew it wouldn't work out.

Seriously, how can you know that? It is not like you are fortune teller or anything like that. Telling your friend this will just make matters worse. It would be like you knew it wouldn't work out and yet you let the relationship become more serious. Your friend might just end up blaming you for something that you didn't know you had to do. I am sure you don't want your friend to see as a bad person.

So, the next time you open your mouth when a friend comes to you for advice or simply to cry on, better stop talking and just listen. Do not offer advice unless you know that your advice will be helpful to him/her. Break-ups are hard and not everyone can move on right away so please be a dear and be more considerate.

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