Five Habits of Confident Men

Sun, 05/20/2012 - 05:33 -- jcartwright

Confidence is sexy, as we all know. But we don’t always seem to act like we know it. Here are few reminders for the Average Joe.

Confidence comes from self-trust, arrogance from a lack of it. It is important to realize that considering the thoughts of others is in no way a sign of weakness.

Guy Friends

This is probably the biggest mistake men make when it comes to confidence. Few things say low self-esteem as well as being paranoid about her guy friends. Get with the program. It’s the 21st century and all the ladies have them. They come with the package. But sometimes men forget and start asking questions or demanding that a woman doesn’t go around somebody; either that or complaining that they go around somebody to much. In all cases, these are mistakes. If you really want to be sexy, be friends with her guy friends. Now that says confidence.

What?! He’s Gay!!

So you may not know anyone who swings that way, but it turns out she does. I’ve seen a few guys do this when they found out one of their girl’s guy friends was gay. In all cases, the ladies in question were just a little annoyed. You may be surprised. Fine. Keep it to yourself though. Don’t make your eyes big and drop your jaw like they did in high school. Nine out of ten women get annoyed with men who react like this. It’s another case of being a bit behind the times. Wigging out of over her gay friends makes you the opposite of a strong, confident, sexy man.

Doing “Women Things”

There’s no need to join your local chapter of Stich n’ Bitch, but doing things like cooking, cleaning around the house and googoogahing babies are all acceptable. When a man does a thing typically seen as a “woman’s activity”, it makes him seem that much more manly. In other words, he’s man enough that playing with babies doesn’t make him get all awkward and what-am-I-supposed-to-do-with-itish and rolling up his sleeves and mopping the floor doesn’t emasculate him.

Letting Other People Help

So you think the key to confidence is doing everything yourself? You’re the self-sufficient man! Actually, this is not the key to a confident image. This is very much the opposite. Real confidence shows itself in being able to ask and receive help. Nobody is diminished by recognizing their own limits or what they are not capable of. Being able to do this is the mark of a confident man. So pull over and ask for directions.

Sharing Decisions

This hooks in well with the above. Men often decide that their judgment is good enough for everyone concerned and that there’s no need to consult. They decide without asking to make a major purchase or a serious change. This only serves to piss people off. In this case, men mistake arrogance for confidence. They are not the same. Confidence comes from self-trust, arrogance from a lack of it. It is important to realize that considering the thoughts of others is in no way a sign of weakness.

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James Cartwright

Just like to write about sex and relationships!