After orgasming

Question: 

I'm 24 m and had a question about what happens after people orgasm. when i have sex after a while i end up cumming (i assume like most other people) and a few different things happen.

i remain anywhere from semi hard to completely hard and could keep having sex but my dick just feels really tired and i usually don't want to i gradually lose my erection, sometimes slowly sometimes quickly and then I become flaccid and am unable to get another erection for 5-30 minutes I was just wondering what other people experience because i have a friend who tells me he can immediately keep going or start up again and i was just wondering if this is something i could work towards or if i am just the way i am and thats that.

i guess i should add that most of the sex i've had has been over the past 2 years with the same partner and we probably averaged having sex about 3 times a day but on the weekends it would be more like 5-6 times a day. don't know if that has any effect on it.

thanks!

Answer: 

This is called your refractory period. Everyone is different. One of my ex partners could go again up to 4 times in a row. My husband can maybe get off twice in a day if they are well spread apart. It also varies each time based on things like how horny you are. Usually refractory periods increase with age. I'm not sure if it is something you can work towards but you may find that occasionally you are horny as hell and ready to go again.

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Amber Hoffman

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