Is Fidelity Dead?

Fri, 06/01/2012 - 23:20 -- zena

Relationships start. Relationships end. It is a never ending cycle. Sometimes we get hurt. Sometimes we don’t. We lose. We win. We cry. We laugh.

Every relationship is an investment - whether it is a short term investment or a long term one. But what happens when something that you invested on ends up hurting you?

Let’s face it. Not all relationships are perfect but at the very least, I can say that fidelity should be one of the primary responsibilities of a person to his/her partner. Polygamous lovers may never understand the word but those who can - should abide by it but due to the rising number of couples breaking up or what’s worse having a divorce just because their partners cheated on them.

If you cannot stay committed to the person that you love then what is the point of being in a relationship anyway? Ever heard of exclusivity? Apparently, some people have not. Back in the day, I was a hopeless romantic. I often dreamt of finding my Prince Charming and then live happily ever after but growing up, I realized it was all a lie. I was brought up into a world where men and women cheat even if sometimes their partners are worthy enough to be their mates. Now, how unfair is that?

Love is a choice

It is sad to say that due to growth of infidelity cases around the world, it is hard to say whether fidelity is still alive or not. Although I still see it being followed by some of the people that I know of, I do not know the other couples around us. I have asked people around me whether they think that fidelity is dead or not. Most of them answered that fidelity is an outdated way of saying that a couple is exclusively dating but in reality, this is all a lie. Fidelity is overrated and is impossible. Some believe that fidelity is still alive but it only happens on rare occasions.

Call me a fool if you will but I don’t think that fidelity ever died in the first place. The way I see it, more and more people are becoming open to the idea that there are more choices to choose from which is why even when they settle with someone, they eventually end up wanting more in the expense of giving up someone in return. Have you ever wondered what it would be like to be cheated on? When it happened to me in the past, I remember wanting to just stop breathing. I didn’t want to go with the pain. I just wanted to get over it. Now, imagine that happening to a married person with kids? Wouldn’t that be more traumatic?

Love is a choice. Whether you want to be in a relationship or not, you have the right to choose the life you want to live. I want to say that people who choose to cheat on their partners is a bad thing unfortunately, who am I to judge? My point is fidelity is a big responsibility. Just like being in relationships, fidelity is something that needs to be preserved.

Without fidelity, how can anyone trust their partners?

Without fidelity, how can anyone trust their partners? Not unless, your partner is open to you being shared to others then that will eventually be fine to them but then again, why be in a relationship when you can’t be happy with just your partner? Should I blame the media for changing the way people think now? Perhaps. Should I blame the ever changing world for making people become more indifferent?

I guess so. All I know is that fidelity is not something that you just throw away. If you want someone to be honest with you, then do the same thing for him/her. It might not be easy to stay honest to someone but that doesn’t mean that we cannot try. Fidelity might be rare at the moment but I know somehow, someday it will be common again.

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Zena Alethea Teofilo

Zena is an online English teacher. She enjoys writing and drawing during her free time. She writes many different articles and stories every day. Some are erotic in nature while others are informative. Writing for this website has opened her to a new world of possibilities. She is happy to share her thoughts and opinions about many things in life. She just hopes that many people are satisfied with her work for she aims to please.