How I (F-early 30s) achieved orgasm through masturbation and now consistently cum stroking myself (for women who want to orgasm for the first time or through masturbation for the first time)

Sun, 02/02/2014 - 11:41 -- Anonymous (not verified)

Ok, this is gonna be long but I think it’s worth it for women who want to orgasm consciously and voluntarily. It looks pretty complicated and technical because there’s a lot involved (for me at least) but once you get it down pat for yourself, it’s all pretty simple and you can consistently cum because you know exactly what to do. Hope it works for you the way it did for me! Your thoughts and experiences are welcome in the comments.

All my life I came strictly during sleep and sometimes through penetration. As far as orgasm while sleeping go, I would wake up from dreams all spasming and releasing, without having touched myself. Sometimes I would not know what the dream was, sometimes I would remember. All the dreams involved sex with strangers or massive cocks roughing me up and other stuff taboo for me in real life. During penetration sex with partners, I could not consistently cum. Because I did not know what was working to make me cum and what was not, I was not able to reproduce it when it happened. All I knew was that it happened when I was on top riding my man and that I needed my clitoris to rub against his pelvis. I never came from clitoral stimulation alone.

Masturbation was most often confusing as I didn’t know what to do. When horny, I would just stroke it until I had to abandon it without true relief.

Until... I came. There was no stopping me after that.

Here are a few of the things I did that worked for me. I'm not assuming it will work for every woman looking to orgasm as we all are different and we masturbate and cum in so many different ways. But here’s what I did:

1 - Fantasy: Not big on regular porn, I enjoy some of the woman-oriented porn and some softcore stuff. I muuuuch prefer reading erotica! One day I latched onto a fantasy. Big time. I just imagined that fantasy during masturbation and it brought me to a certain level of arousal each time I thought about it. If you haven’t found an arousing fantasy, just read some erotica, look at erotic pictures or passionate sex embraces videos if you’re not so much into regular porn and find something that inspires you that you can recreate in your mind during masturbation. If you have to make noise or mumble incoherent dirty words to your ''virtual parner(s)'', do so as it will raise your arousal to new levels. It did for me and you don’t have to feel self-conscious about it. Just try it and see what it does.

2 - Combination clit/vagina: Some women can cum through clitoral stimulation only. Lucky ones. But you may find you have to get both at the same time. If you enjoy being penetrated, you’ll have to try different strokes and combinations so, that can take some time to figure out which combination works best for you. Let’s break it down.

3 - Clit stroke: It can be frustrating to stroke, only to find yourself too sensitive or not feeling much. You may think there’s something defective in your clit. There’s nothing wrong with you, it’s just the stroke that’s not practiced enough. Maybe some women have a shy clit that doesn’t come out too much? So you have to tame it and let it come out. Start really lightly, even on top of the clitoris hood if you need to and around the lips and the clitoris. Only when you are quite aroused you may be able to stroke it more pointedly and then, much harder when you are really, really into it. When you’ll touch harder, you’ll get the ''roots’’ of the clitoris under your skin and a new sensation. Different moves will get you different results so you may prefer a hard pressing or upward flick or rubbing at the point when you are sufficiently aroused. Do not rely just on saliva, go get lube immediately for this!

4 - Vagina stroke: I use a dildo as it recreates real penetration, with no vibration. But try the toy you prefer. Lube it with real lube (ideally not saliva, although you can try that). What I found out is that the stroke did not need to be very rough or rapid. It feels like a ''casual stroll in a park’’ and is not very deep either. So, it doesn’t have to get tough on your arm. It’s probably rubbing mostly against the g-spot area (anterior wall of the vagina, about 3-4 inches deep). Obviously, this will have to be with your dominant hand while your other hand is handling your clit.

5 - Position: Now, the position I found helped is to raise slightly the hips with pillows or just by raising your hips in the air if you’re comfortable that way. Also, with legs up in the air or resting against a window sill, bed frame or sofa, I found the sensations even better and with a ‘’casual stroll in the park’’ motion of the dildo and the clit stroke, I’m good to go. Not sure exactly but I think it rubs on the back of the vagina towards the cervix and that’s a good sensation. May not work for you, though.

6 - Feeling: Lastly, and this is important, is to not feel too self-conscious if you’re in a weird position, if you look like an upside down turtle trying to get back on its feet or a turtle whispering naughty things to invisible people, as long as it makes you hot, it’s all good. Release all tension and stay in the movement (and in the moment). Don’t think ''oh, am I cumming yet or what?!'', just stroke in a way that feels good. When you get a move that feels good, stay with it and add progressively more pressure to your clit. When it doesn’t feel so good, just change the combination/stroke/pressure. Don’t think of the time it’s taking. If it’s getting sore or unpleasant, just stop. Try another time.

What it feels like when the orgasm is cumming on (for women who don’t know how to tell): It’ll take more or less time, depending on your body, what you’ve been thinking and your level of arousal. When you are sufficiently aroused, you’ll feel the stroke get more pleasurable and you’ll feel juicier. Then, you feel a sort of tingly sensation in your pussy, like your pussy is vibrating or you get a ''good feeling itch''. Just keep going with the same motion you’ve been doing. In about 10 to 20 seconds the full wave is gonna hit you and it feels so good! There's no mistaking it: when the orgasm happens, you know. Your pussy is like a milking machine and you're in milky heaven. If you want to be 100% sure it was an orgasm, just touch your nipples. If they're hard, you just came. Your ears are gonna buzz like you went to a rock concert (better than a rock concert) and you feel wobbly in legs and arms if you try to stand up (Just don't. Simply stay there). When you know how it’s cumming on, it’s easier to reproduce it after with the same motions and to wait it out when you feel the tingly/itchy sensation. You can now also reproduce it during penetration sex.

Congratulations! You’re now a masturbation addict and your mind is transformed into that of a 16 year-old boy! Ha! Ha! People will wonder why you have such a nice glow and ask you if you’re in love but no, it’s just that you’ve been cumming and cumming like MAD.

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