When the relationship is new, it is natural to have fears and confusions related to it. However, too much fears and lack of control over their expression might not be very good for the health of the relationship. Among so many fears the common fear that has been observed in relationships is the intimacy fear.
Fear of intimacy normally refers to avoiding the intimate moments with your partner, resisting in giving up love that your partner expects and reluctant to accept and take the love that your partner is giving. Now the intimacy fears are more commonly found in women as compare to man. We women don’t trust man very easily, we take our time to be certain that this person is right for us, sometimes the fear is there because of lack of experience or maybe we are not very happy with the body we have. Whatever are the reasons; it turns off the male partners very badly and starts distancing themselves from you which is not good.
The first step is overcoming this fear is consulting your doctor and finding out what is that thing which is causing anxiety in you and is affecting your mood. There might be some other fear than the fear of intimacy. Try to have a friendly relationship with your partner. Allow them to express themselves even if it is intimate in nature. Don’t reject them right away.
I know listening to it can be tough but not as hard as expressing it. So initiate and try to overcome this fear by allowing your partner to talk about anything they would like to talk. Once you are friend with him, you will be able to understand him in a better way, you will get more comfortable and it will also create an emotional bonding between you two. Try to share and communicate everything either it is small or big, significant or ordinary with your partner, it will help you in opening up in front of your partner. Express yourself, share with your partner how do you feel about all these stuffs and why do you feel like that. It will help him in understanding you and will open the window for mutual understanding and sharing. He might even be able to help you out in overcoming the intimacy fear.
So just be yourself and talk about it confidently. There is no need of rushing into the stuffs you are comfortable with. Again talk to your partner about your fears and take things slowly. If he really cares for you and interested in you he will understand your fear and instead of being aggressive about things, he will understand it and will give you time until you get comfortable and start trusting him completely. There is always a misconception or not a misconception exactly but that’s what most of the women ahs experienced that men only wants a sexually oriented relationship and they should never be trusted.
Being a partner you need to understand this and try to fix this misconception or fear first. Once you will understand her point of view completely, you will be able to reduce this fear which will lead automatically help her in overcoming the fear of intimacy.